Cherish every moment, like few ever do.
Open up your heart and let it reach inside of you.
Take part in all the kisses, enjoy every touch.
And know that you are blessed to have someone to love you so much.
And even if your single, dont ever feel alone.
For there are others out there still looking for a home.
A place to find the space to breathe and make it completely yours.
A place where you gather the strength to fight the coming wars.
Life is unpredictable, but always just as good.
It's worth every minute, a sentiment seldom understood.
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Lets start today by counting our blessings. You don't have to have a lover, you don't have to have a friend. Those additions to your life are wonderful, and add enrichment, but they do not define you. They do not make you the single most cherish-able being that you are.
Does a flower need a another flower to open up? No.. but it does get a little help. Science calls these pollinators, birds and insects that crawl inside the bud to drink the nectar and helps spread pollen from flower to flower, so that seeds may grow.
So... lets think about this. I want to teach you a lesson here. Independence; what does it mean? Does it mean you don't NEED anyone? Here is the thing, if we want to get technical, no one can live without any help whatsoever. It's impossible. However, you can take charge of your life and live for yourself, and provide yourself with the things you need. You don't need a relationship to find your bit of happy, but... if you really want to evolve as a person, to become a better person, the need for relationships are undeniable. If not a love, then a friend, an acquaintance, a group of like minded individuals for you to show your ideas to.
Because, lets face it, people do better with encouragement, people crave someone to say "what YOU are doing, is worth while". Our need for this sort of response from others should never stop us from following our dreams. There will be times where you will feel alone, and maybe perfectly happy there, and there is nothing wrong with that, and there will be times where you are wanting with all your heart for just someone to hold you close.
Now, referencing back to the flower observation. Flowers need pollinators, if they want to pass on their genes to the next generation,but, the flower does produce it's own sweet nectar to attract the pollinators it needs, and it does produce it's own seeds, which is the ultimate goal. In fact, flower heads exist in bright colors specifically too attract these pollinators to their nectar. So... isn't the flower independent? It is not only independent, but it is dependent on those pollinators doing their job, yet, the flower did make itself available to attract these pollinators so.. In summation you can say yes, the flower is an independent organism who is creating an atmosphere that is welcoming to the organisms it is dependent upon for producing more flowers.
Now, on to my point!
Cherish all you hold dear. If you have a mate, good, enjoy that mate, and let them know every single day that you love them. They are an important addition to your life, and they are helping you become a better person by loving you. If it is a healthy relationship, you are growing because these pollinators, that is, your lover, your friends, your family, acquaintances, are spreading your pollen to others. Your 'pollen' is the energy that you give off. This is why they say your bad mood doesn't just effect you, it effects everyone you meet.
If you want to feel validated, wanted, or loved, you need to find this seed within yourself, and once you have found it, you will find that you have more to spread. This energy only grows. Look within, and then spread it out. Your pain is real, your need is real, and you will not find the solution to these unless you are able to open yourself up to the truth. That yes, independence is a must, but life is all about interdependence. That is, we must learn to WORK together, and be with each other, if we are to ever learn how to become better people.
When a person says, "I don't NEED anyone" what are they really saying? In my mind they are saying "I don't want to NEED anyone so I will push everyone away".
Now, when you say "I rely on myself and don't need anyone for any THING" Then perhaps, you are right. You don't need people to provide you with THINGS, and that is a clear distinction. In my mind, yes, you are independent.
While you are sitting there, burning in your righteous hate, and not needing any one person to add to your life, you are saying that, you are at the level that you are perfectly fine without anyone else. For me this means you are throwing yourself out of sync with others, and you are casting the sails of your ship alone. If this is what you want, then I wish you all the blessings in all the worlds... but keep in mind, that while you are alone, drifting in the sea, by yourself, you are not looking to become a better PERSON.. you are merely surviving.
Make the distinct separation in your mind. Independence is something you need to be without burden, but by being independent you must keep yourself OPEN for interdependence. That is, to have the relationships that will help you become a better person. No one is ever alone, but if you are consciously pushing everyone away because you don't want to rely on anyone, you are also cutting off the chance of actually growing personally as a person. It is your decision to make.
Be good to yourself, love yourself, and give yourself every opportunity. Do not be afraid either to share yourself with others, when you do this, you are giving something to the world. You are spreading your pollen.
I wish you hugs, life, and love sisters.
So... lets think about this. I want to teach you a lesson here. Independence; what does it mean? Does it mean you don't NEED anyone? Here is the thing, if we want to get technical, no one can live without any help whatsoever. It's impossible. However, you can take charge of your life and live for yourself, and provide yourself with the things you need. You don't need a relationship to find your bit of happy, but... if you really want to evolve as a person, to become a better person, the need for relationships are undeniable. If not a love, then a friend, an acquaintance, a group of like minded individuals for you to show your ideas to.
Because, lets face it, people do better with encouragement, people crave someone to say "what YOU are doing, is worth while". Our need for this sort of response from others should never stop us from following our dreams. There will be times where you will feel alone, and maybe perfectly happy there, and there is nothing wrong with that, and there will be times where you are wanting with all your heart for just someone to hold you close.
Now, referencing back to the flower observation. Flowers need pollinators, if they want to pass on their genes to the next generation,but, the flower does produce it's own sweet nectar to attract the pollinators it needs, and it does produce it's own seeds, which is the ultimate goal. In fact, flower heads exist in bright colors specifically too attract these pollinators to their nectar. So... isn't the flower independent? It is not only independent, but it is dependent on those pollinators doing their job, yet, the flower did make itself available to attract these pollinators so.. In summation you can say yes, the flower is an independent organism who is creating an atmosphere that is welcoming to the organisms it is dependent upon for producing more flowers.
Now, on to my point!
Cherish all you hold dear. If you have a mate, good, enjoy that mate, and let them know every single day that you love them. They are an important addition to your life, and they are helping you become a better person by loving you. If it is a healthy relationship, you are growing because these pollinators, that is, your lover, your friends, your family, acquaintances, are spreading your pollen to others. Your 'pollen' is the energy that you give off. This is why they say your bad mood doesn't just effect you, it effects everyone you meet.
If you want to feel validated, wanted, or loved, you need to find this seed within yourself, and once you have found it, you will find that you have more to spread. This energy only grows. Look within, and then spread it out. Your pain is real, your need is real, and you will not find the solution to these unless you are able to open yourself up to the truth. That yes, independence is a must, but life is all about interdependence. That is, we must learn to WORK together, and be with each other, if we are to ever learn how to become better people.
When a person says, "I don't NEED anyone" what are they really saying? In my mind they are saying "I don't want to NEED anyone so I will push everyone away".
Now, when you say "I rely on myself and don't need anyone for any THING" Then perhaps, you are right. You don't need people to provide you with THINGS, and that is a clear distinction. In my mind, yes, you are independent.
While you are sitting there, burning in your righteous hate, and not needing any one person to add to your life, you are saying that, you are at the level that you are perfectly fine without anyone else. For me this means you are throwing yourself out of sync with others, and you are casting the sails of your ship alone. If this is what you want, then I wish you all the blessings in all the worlds... but keep in mind, that while you are alone, drifting in the sea, by yourself, you are not looking to become a better PERSON.. you are merely surviving.
Make the distinct separation in your mind. Independence is something you need to be without burden, but by being independent you must keep yourself OPEN for interdependence. That is, to have the relationships that will help you become a better person. No one is ever alone, but if you are consciously pushing everyone away because you don't want to rely on anyone, you are also cutting off the chance of actually growing personally as a person. It is your decision to make.
Be good to yourself, love yourself, and give yourself every opportunity. Do not be afraid either to share yourself with others, when you do this, you are giving something to the world. You are spreading your pollen.
I wish you hugs, life, and love sisters.
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