Pain

Greetings sisters,
I know it has been longer than I have liked, but with the holiday season coming around you can see that things become quite hectic. That being said, I think we should jump right back into personal healing. Therefore, my topic today is pain.
First thing is first. Essentially, pain is a deep seated reaction to something in your life that conflicts with the state of your wellbeing. This could be said if for instance, you were cut, fell off a building, or if someone molested you as a child. I firmly believe you cannot compare your pain to the pain of others because everyone’s experience is different. There are similarities of course, it’s what makes us human, but truthfully, pain is a challenge in our lives that we must find a way to live with, or heal.
The option to live with the pain comes with great consequence, but some pain is so deep and so large that it consumes, and takes great strength just to wrestle into manageable levels. Remember, you affect the people around you. Also, it is no one’s job to make the pain better or to heal it for you, healing it for you is just impossible, although the people that love you may try. I speak of great emotional pain, because this seems to be the enemy of many. I tell you, the first rule of tackling this pain is accepting that it is there. It does not make you weak or stupid, it simply is, and you CAN deal with it, but the desire to do so comes from you.

Imagine that you are a great bird, and you were hungry. You became so hungry that everything you saw resembled food… Now imagine as a bird, consumed by hunger, you land in your nest, and here you see two tiny mice. Yum! So voraciously, you consume the mice in your nest… but once the hunger is satiated, you realize what happened… You consumed your own hatchlings. This can happen with pain, when it turns into anger. Because anger blinds you to what is really there. It colors your vision and makes you react in a way that is unhealthy for you, and unhealthy for the people that love you. And so, if you are angry because of some pain that you have, it is your duty to try and work through it. Find something that makes you happy, relieve stress any way you can that doesn’t harm others, and be good to yourself and the people that choose to be with you, even in difficult times.

Dali lama says that happiness is our natural state of being, yet so few people can honestly say they are truly happy!
The answer is simple, you must take every day one at a time, and get the most out of that day you possibly can. That is, find at least one thing that brings a smile on your face and do it. In our busy lives, we have work, obligations, and a plethora of other activities that keep us busy, and while this is productive, you must feed your spirit as well as your body and your mind.
*As a special note, sometimes bringing happiness to others has its own rich reward.
Now, look deep within yourself, and ask yourself this one question. “Do I wish to heal?” Truthfully, healing means not only working through your problems; but also, taking responsibility for your pain. It means not blaming others, but allowing that yes, their actions did inflict this on you, but it is YOUR actions that will determine how you deal with your life after the fact. It is YOUR actions that will either add to your pain, or alleviate it. If you tell yourself that it is hopeless, than yes, it is hopeless. Give up now, because essentially, that is what you have done. Now, if you tell yourself that perhaps you cannot fix the pain, but maybe, just maybe, there is hope of living with it, and you can also attempt to live a happy life then.. Oh my dear sisters; then there is a chance. You have given yourself this chance. It all depends on you.
Namaste